During the last several months, I have come to a difficult-to-accept realization. Physically, I am not doing well. Honestly, this may be the worst I have felt for a considerable length of time, not counting the times immediately after a medical procedure (like my muscle biopsy). 

Last year, on our family trip to Maui, I reluctantly agreed to use a wheelchair in the airports. A good friend had advised me not to waste my legs walking through an airport and standing in line at security. She was absolutely right. But there was no question that I would walk, hike, and participate in everything my husband and son wanted to do — including parasailing and zip lining with my son.

This year, though, not only did I use a wheelchair in the airports, I also rented one to use during our summer trip to Washington, D.C. 

Since our July D.C. trip, there have been two other occasions when having a wheelchair would have made my life a lot easier. One was seeing Return of the Jedi in Concert at the Hollywood Bowl. The other was attending Back-to-School Night at my son’s high school. Both occasions were incredibly painful for me. Both occasions left no doubt that my legs can no longer do what, up until this point, they have been able to do.

A decade ago, I retired from teaching. And I think one of the reasons I have held on so tightly to all my other roles, all my I’ve-always-done-it, of-course-I’ll-still-do-it instances is because I’m terrified of having to give up something else. I am so frightened that my physical disability is worsening and the invisibility aspect of it will soon no longer exist,  and there will be no doubt in someone’s mind if they see me park in a handicapped parking space that I do indeed need that spot. 

I don’t know if this is true. No one does. In October, I’m scheduled to begin treatment for my knee that may (or may not) help my overall left leg pain. 

Meanwhile, each day feels a bit like an endurance test. A test I’m scared I won’t pass.