I had a hard doctor’s appointment last week.
Maybe “hard” isn’t the right word. After all, I found parking half-a-block away from the building. The doctor was only running a few minutes behind schedule. And because I had blood work done in December, no additional labs were needed.
In those terms, it was a pretty good appointment.
But it was still a hard appointment. Because I left the appointment feeling weary, disappointed, and dejected. Angry, frustrated, and pissed. Sad, crushed, and dejected.
Later, I told my husband, “No one knows what to do with me.”
My rheumatologist (rheumatologist number three in my life with chronic illness) cannot explain my increased levels of pain and decreased levels of energy. Because the blood work shows my inflammation is under control. Which means my medication is working. But it doesn’t explain why I feel like “I’m going downhill, fast, and no one is able to slow me down.” (I said that same sentence to my doctor. He nodded his head. He said he understood.)
I should point out that I do like this doctor. I like that he looks at me when I speak and really seems to be paying attention to what I have to say. I like that, during past appointments, he seems thoughtful when suggesting new medications to try and shares with me his reasoning behind those medications. (By the way, I have tried every medication he has suggested. A few made me worse than I was to begin with.)
My doctor said he’s concerned about “structural damage” to my body. Which sounded more like a description of a car than a person. My doctor voiced his concern about feelings of depression I may have. I reminded him I regularly speak with my therapist.
He wants me to try physical therapy. Again. (Readers, I have tried physical therapy multiple times over the years. At different locations. Usually I’m told how inflexible I am. How much less range of motion I have in my left leg compared to my right leg.) I have the phone number; I just need to call and make the appointment. I’m procrastinating.
But that wasn’t his only recommendation.
“Do you multi-task?” he asked.
“I’m a mom. Of course I do. Don’t all moms?” I asked.
He didn’t seem amused by my response. Though I wasn’t trying to be amusing.
My doctor says multi-tasking leads to additional stress.
So do less, and eat more whole grains (another one of his suggestions).
But I can tell you right now that won’t help my pain.
The truth is — there is no easy fix. I know that. He knows that.
At the same time, no chronic illness patient wants to be sent on their way having been told to multi-task less.