A Title for the Times

The problem with being a reader with an insatiable appetite is that I read so much I don’t always remember books I’ve read in the past.

During this shutdown, I’ve been doing the book-version of shopping from my closet. I’m re-reading and re-discovering books I already own and have read in years past. 

My latest “re-read-but-it-felt-like-a-new-read-because-I-read-it-so-long-ago-I-didn’t-remember-it” was Terry McMillan’s The Interruption of Everything. (In my defense, the book was published in 2005.)

Because without even reading the book’s jacket copy, the title was perfect for life right now.

While the protagonist, Marilyn, is the same age as me (44), her kids are in college. My son will be starting the 7th grade this fall.

But how perfect is this paragraph when it comes to describing moms?

“Being a lifetime wife and mother has afforded me the luxury of having multiple and even simultaneous careers: I’ve been a chauffeur. A chef. An interior decorator. A landscape architect, as well as a gardener. I’ve been a painter. A furniture restorer. A personal shopper. A veterinarian’s assistant and sometimes the veterinarian. I’ve been an accountant, a banker, and on occasion, a broker. I’ve been a beautician. A map. A psychic. Santa Claus. The Tooth Fairy. The T.V. Guide. A movie reviewer. An angel. God. A nurse and a nursemaid. A psychiatrist and psychologist. Evangelist.”

And then there’s this paragraph, about acknowledging the need for change:

“It has taken me a long time to recognize that I’ve never put myself first, I’m always on the bottom of my things to do list and I keep getting carried over to the next day/month/year. But not this time. I think I finally get it. You don’t have to give up everything to own your life. And you don’t have to give everything you own to fuel someone else’s.”

That’s the part I’m working on.

 

Planting the Seed

A sweet “kiss” – Ryan is 7 months old in this photo.

I never know what topic will come up during dinner with my son. 

Ryan is a curious boy. And he knows that I will listen with respect to whatever he has to say and whatever he asks. 

One evening we talked about former presidents of the United States.

Another evening, our conversation was primarily basketball-related (we’re Los Angeles Clippers fans).

And one evening, my eleven-year-old asked me a question I wasn’t prepared for:

“How old do you think I’ll be when I have my first kiss?”

I’ve said it before – Ryan is one of my greatest sources of inspiration. Many personal essays have been written as a result of something Ryan said or did. This question had the same effect. 

You can click here to be re-directed to Mothers Always Write to read my most recently published personal essay, “Planting the Seed.”